Hello,
Located in Secaucus, New Jersey
I have been into spanking (spankee) since the 4th grade. My last parental spanking and mouth soaping was at 16. Wish my parents continued corporal punishment throughout high school and college but did not.

I had girl friends spank/mouth soap me through college and before I got married for punishment and motivation. Some forced, some not; some liked, some did not. These activities were kept quiet because even then people thought they were odd.

Vanilla wife not into. We tried but no real interest by her. When she is not around, I have self-spanked, mouth soaped and spent time in the corner for punishment. Not the same as done by someone else as we know. Self-punishment does make me feel better. I have been on many sites but never had the time to join so I was a lurker. Then I stumbled onto this site. Joined. Possibilities? Hope so.

For years I wondered why and basically tried to ignore the desire for spanking in my life. Over the past decade it has gone from a desire, some mild and basically ineffective self spankings, to becoming more serious. I've only recently, since happening upon this site, begun to feel and accept this side of me, even if I don't understand why. It's just the past few months I've realized that self and real time spanking can help me relax in a way that nothing else can. I try to self spank as often as I can and real time spank every 6 to 8 weeks for stress relief and relaxation but I am terrible at it!!!. I want spankings that hurt and to know I've been spanked when sitting that day but can NOT achieve that.

I have a fairly high stress job, and lead all day. I'm not submissive by nature. I view self and given spankings as a way to relieve stress and try to relax and a path to achieve a goal. The soreness later in the day reminds me of the relaxed feeling I had earlier which helps me keep moving forward. It is all the better that I truly enjoy my spankings.

Desire disciplinarian, no nonsense man or women to punish me for current (cursing, lying, smart mouth, sarcasm, procrastinating) and past transgressions (staying out past curfew, coming home drunk or stoned, hiding from a punishment, not accepting a punishment for smoking pot, back talking, arguing, cursing, lying, lousy grades, )

Desire spanking OTK, bent over furniture, bent over, etc all on the bare with hand and implements; mouth soaping with Ivory or other bar soap, and corner time before and after punishment, sitting nude on a punishment stool ( how humiliating). Scolding throughout is a must. Open to other punishments that fit the crime. Limits to be discussed but feel I need to be spanked to tears. I also believe that once the punishment begins, the spanker is in charge. I will submit to their authority therefore trust is a must.

Used to want only women to punish me but, thought about it and realized both parents punished me and I am here for punishment and motivation so having a male discipline me is OK. No sex what so ever with anyone. I am straight but open to petticoat punishment.